In Defence of Emily Waltham

If you’ve watched Friends, you’ll know of Emily, Ross’ second fiancée and his shortest marriage (which is saying something seeing as he Vegas-married Rachel). She gets mostly forgotten and is frequently the subject of hate, but is she really that bad?

It seems we’ve all just taken to binging Friends again since Netflix added it to its catalogue. This has highlighted that the world is pretty much split into three groups: lovers of Friends, haters of Friends, and folks who used to love Friends and then as they became more woke decided that Friends probably has a lot of problems and thought why can’t every show be like Brooklyn 99?! 

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Amongst the most problematic aspects of the show, the most prevalent issue is the character of Ross. He’s homophobic, entitled, rude, and sometimes just plain unlikeable. He’s the epitome of the toxic male “nerd” character whose entire arc revolves around their quest for a woman, which would be fine if they weren’t so damn sexist about it! It’s your classic Ted Mosby, Leonard Hofstadter trope that’s still the core of the straight white male storyline. And let’s face it, that’s pretty much every single storyline.

But Ross isn’t all bad, right? Sometimes he’s sweet, kind and caring and he exhibits these traits most prevalently when he’s in a relationship. And while that has its problems, it’s kind of nice, isn’t it? The idea that love can make us better humans is one that should be pure and unadulterated, so maybe Ross isn’t such a bad guy. You know, when he’s not “on a break” (Rachel totally deserved better). And clearly, Ross is at his most tolerable when he’s with Emily. She brings out his fun, likeable side and pushes him to do new things. So why is she hated on so much? Because Ross and Rachel were meant to be? Ross and Emily were happy and in love. That’s totally enough for them to have been endgame!

Emily is a sweet character, but she takes a downward spiral after the wedding. Rachel basically crashes their wedding because she suddenly realises that she’s in love with Ross and has to tell him how she feels. She ends up not doing it because she’s a decent person (if the roles were reversed it’s doubtful Ross would have granted her that courtesy) and it would have been a selfish thing to do. But her being there does get Ross all confused because in his head Rachel is his prize. If that’s not enough, she shows up to go to their honeymoon, that Ross is planning to go on with Rachel instead! Can you really blame her for getting the wrong idea?

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At first, Emily does fall victim to the common “women not supporting women” idea as she immediately blames Rachel. She doesn’t want Ross to be anywhere near her at all. It’s not a great look on her and it’s a shame that Rachel and Emily couldn’t have supported each other as friends outside the World of Ross. But Rachel isn’t perfect either, she does a similar thing when Ross is dating Charlie and is completely horrible to her instead of befriending her (or at least being honest and civil towards her).

But in the end, Emily makes the right decision to break up with Ross, as it’s him she doesn’t trust and she realises that it’s not Rachel’s fault. Ultimately, this is why Emily is a good character and had Ross not planned to go on his honeymoon with Rachel, they could have had a great marriage. It would have been great to see her as a character in her own right and not just Ross’ love interest. She’s not a bad person, she just does what is right for her and she can’t be villainised just because Ross is a massive idiot.

What do you think? Is Emily an underrated character? Do you sympathise with Ross? Are you a #Romily shipper? Let us know in the comments below or on our Facebook page!

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Five Shows Likely To Be Renewed

If you’re as sad as I am about the cancellation of Utopia, (which if you haven’t seen already, it’s available on Netflix) here’s something a bit more positive; five great shows that will probably get renewed if they aren’t already! (Yay!)

Marvel’s Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. – Admittedly, this one could go either way… Although it’s got mixed reviews for the later episodes, I still really rate this show. It is set in the Marvel universe, featuring a small band of SHIELD agents, including our very own Phil Coulson. The thing about Agents of SHIELD is that it can be a bit of a tossup and may make you lose faith in humanity. Whether that’s a good thing or not is really a judgment call. Okay, Agents of SHIELD can be a hassle to watch and you’re screaming at the TV but the writers did their jobs well of making you fall in love with the characters in the first place. For that, Marvel, bravo.

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Castle – Now, if I was the betting gal, I would bet all of my possessions (because I’m a broke ass student writer who has zero money to gamble with) that Castle will get renewed for another season. Why? Because it’s f**king brilliant. The story follows a mystery novelist and a detective as they solve “unusual crimes” in New York City. The interwoven comedy and satire is so brilliant, it is beyond my capabilities to describe it. Basically, if you like Sherlock, you’ll probably like this too. Heads up if you’re going to binge-watch though, there are seven seasons.

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Once Upon A Time – This is pretty much a sure thing because let’s face it, if you haven’t watched this already, you’re going to. That’s not a threat, it’s a promise. Who doesn’t enjoy exciting new spins on fairy tales? This show is seriously contagious. You see a GIF on Tumblr and next thing you know you’re cramming in “one last episode” at 4am, your essay is long forgotten and you are lying in a pile of empty snack packets. True story.

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Gotham – Yes, Gotham has officially been renewed for a second season, which is super exciting news for my fellow comic book fanatics. If, like me, you have been following along in Britain, you’ll be a little behind our friends across the pond, but so far the first season is everything one could hope for a pre-Batman crime-filled city.  The casting is great, the narrative is top-notch and the character arcs are tantalising – I cannot oversell this show.

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Hannibal – Another personal favourite of mine, Hannibal is a cult classic. It’s based on a character from a novel Red Dragon, but you will most likely have heard of the Dr Hannibal Lecter; the forensic psychiatrist that moonlights as a serial killer with cannibalistic tendencies. This programme will have you all over the place, you’ll be torn between seeing him as a victim or a villain… It’s the perfect thriller-horror series that will keep you in suspense until you just can’t take it anymore and then immediately take you to a place so beyond your understanding that you’ll feel physically sick. You’ll watch it for the sadistic pleasure but you’ll stay because you start to have sympathetic feelings towards a cannibal… Deep stuff.

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So there you go, five shows that you can dig your teeth into and in the near future, you won’t feel the soul-crushing pain of cancellation. Happy watching! 

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